Sunday, March 15, 2015

Spring Green

It is an amazing spring morning in Delhi. The sky is, not dull, but a cheerful overcast grey. The clouds drop a little rain sporadically, but a gentle breeze blows them away. I head for the park near my house, trying not to be late for my weekly tête-à-tête with nature. The park is very lush green today, more than I have ever seen through all the 4 seasons I've been here. The beautiful spring puts a spring in my step too..

I can spot a group of 4 street dogs who are the adopted dogs of our colony. I have literally seen them grow up from puppies. They were much gentler then, today they are sturdy street dogs who have learnt to defend themselves, living on their own. After all, no one would call a street dog for milk or treats, as much as they would call a cute and helpless looking puppy. For the sake of familiarity, lets name the 4 dogs as Hira, Moti, Tuka and Poky. 

In the park I can also see a well bred black labrador, whom the owner addresses as Lucy. It is strapped shut across its mouth, for fear it may bite someone. A leash keeps it on its toes. There's also a beagle, a pug and a spaniel, out on their own walks. 

Hira and his gang have been snapping playfully at the morning joggers' heels, running along with them, jumping at imaginary treats. The 4 of them rush playfully towards a cricket ball when it gets hit into the bushes. They spot a group of pigeons at the ground, and they run towards it, sending the pigeons twittering into the sky. If not the pigeons, then they run towards the squirrels who are searching for their breakfast. A random dog from the road barks and these 4 bark back, as if acknowledging their morning greetings.

Done with their usual laps, Hira now spots the domesticated dogs, and he wants to have a bit of fun. He rushes across the park, galloping as if he were a horse taking his master away from danger. He jumps across elevations, climbs up and down the walking track and reaches across to Lucy. He barks once, then bends down on his front legs as if bowing. Now that's a typical dog gesture that he wants to play. Lucy looks at Hira, wags his tail, but the scared owner walks him away. By now, the rest of the gang have joined them, and they start their own play, while making sure they are in Lucy's vicinity.

The beagle and the spaniel are not on leash, as they are relatively smaller dogs and hence easier to control in case they decide to scramble. They also have been observing this scene and are waiting for their invites. There are none. Apparently they are too small for this social convention. The spaniel rushes into bushes, trying to follow the tracks Hira and Moti have left behind. The beagle is probably of  an introvert nature, because he decides to observe the scene from a distance and simply wags his tail to show he's interested.

The pug has stood still at a corner, for very long now. I think, he has been contemplating whether to proceed or not, and after a while he decides he likes his human company better.

After the pets have been walked, they are taken back to their cosy homes where their carefully prepared treats await. I can spot the beagle staring intently through the gaps in the gate, towards the park. He sits still for very long, his gaze fixed on the free dogs. After a while, he walks away. 

Lucy has reached home, and his mouth strap has been taken off. He can now stretch his mouth and take in all the air he wants. He wishes he could do the same when he was in the park. He also gazes at the park once, wishing he could be as free as Hira and his team. Who knows, they could have been friends.

Since the sun is getting overhead, people are going back home. The sunday chores also await. They have had their little time of freedom, on this beautiful morning. The birds have left to fend food for their little ones. Squirrels are back on the trees, nibbling at the nuts they have gathered. The park now gathers a deserted look.

Hira is tired now. He feels thirsty but there's no one to give him water, or to offer him warm tempting food. He spots a broken pipe nearby, making a pool of muddy water. He barks at his fellows, for whom he's grown to feel responsible for. They lap up the water, sifting through the sand. Nearby, some scraps have been left behind by the guy who puts up a food stall. They all eat as much as they can to keep hunger at bay. The lack of activity too, puts them in a snooze. They rest, and wait for the evening, to meet new people again, to try making new friends, and to survive yet another day.

I head back home thinking, life is the same, for all of us.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Heart is where the home is..




"Mini, how can you be so careless.. fir se toot-ta kuch aur", shrieked my mother from less than 3 feet away. Outwardly, I put up a scowl. Why would one big break of the previous day mean I would continue breaking all of the other stuff which my mom loves? I am not that much of butter fingers!

Inside, I was doing a jig, 'cos the scene was so reminiscent of the times when I was in school (and hence staying with my parents), and kept dropping/breaking stuff. The scolding brought back a nostalgia so strong that I wanted to freeze the moment forever, be it my mom's angry look or my petulant scowl at being rebuked. (I did not break anything more after that, but there was an incident of me pulling out the microwave plug so enthusiastically that the projectile motion of the 3-pin could break many things in sight..)

Home is a simple four letter word which combines in itself a meaning so deep, and a comfort so protective and engaging, that you don't imagine just a brick and mortar set up. You associate with it memories, and companionship, and growing up, and fights. It is a place where no matter how big the problem, it will get solved. A place bustling and full of people you love and care about is a treasure so big which nothing else can replace! Having to come back to a home, and not just a house, can just make all the stress of the day wither away, and give renewed enthusiasm. I imagine being able to just walk across the hall and talk to my mom about anything under the sun, or getting my dad all the things which he asks in infinite requests, or planning latest  foodie outings with my sis, and I think, now that would be bliss! 8 years of being away, and on my own, make me want more of these simplest pleasures..

I had an instance of similar home like deja vu after the diwali vacation. Back in engineering days, hostel used to be a home away from home. The homesickness used to vanish as soon as I used to meet my special ones in hostel, in adjacent rooms. With time's passage we are all in different parts of world, and the communication is limited. But a recent 2 day stay with a friend brought back all those memories like a song.. laughing like we used to, at jokes which were as juvenile and innocent, as they were when we were a couple of 18 year olds. Life has changed for all of us, but the rejuvenation that we had through old pictures and videos, infused some old world happiness back into me. 

Today, I feel lucky that I have had these amazing moments, which give me so much happiness, and a longing, at the same time. It helps me when I'm having my escapist moments. I can go into a cocoon and be a child again, with the envelope of memories around me..

"Where we love is home - home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts."

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Jet City Woman!


I can crib about anything and everything these days! Opinionated, if i may choose to pamper my ego. Starting from an eagle's eye view till the very basics, I hate it all. The traffic is too much, the days are too long, the weekends are too short, the societal pressures are never ending, the diets never work, the money is never enough, the problems never abate, the weather is always humid, the auto wallas NEVER agree to take me, hair never stays in place, while walking back the cars spray the water only on me, and the tame dog in front of my office never takes a roti, only from me. 
I am pretty sure the Gods are against me! I am very serious. I sometimes give the idol at my home, a withering eye as I leave for office. Why oh why, should the 20s turn out to be just work? I miss being carefree, I miss being not responsible for the monthly utility bills, or the insurance, or the savings, or the plannings.
So I am going in the local train, berating myself, berating the world, berating the train, just waiting for the ride to get over so that I can get on a stupid auto, to my stupid home (yeah that particular one was a furious train of thought!), when I happened to notice an old lady sitting in front of me, and she was smiling away (at me? I dunno)
It was a long train ride, so I couldn't even put on a surly look and pass the time looking just like that, and hence I smiled back. Tiny bit. She immediately gave a warm look, as if  my little teenage-rebellion-attempt was good enough for her! I am a bit skeptical now...
Then she starts speaking. And she speaks. She speaks how she is 82 years of age, and how she lost her husband recently, to a kidney disease. 'He's better off without the pain', she says with a confident smile. She loves to trade in markets, is hooked on to CNBC even though she hasn't studied beyond class 8. She speaks about her garden, where she tends to bonsai plants, her flowers, and her kitchen garden. She talks fondly about her granddaughters, who are excellent painters, in her opinion. She herself is fond of painting - oil painting especially..
By now, I am listening intently. She asks me my hobbies, I mention few, but then i wonder about the last time i made an attempt to do all that.. things supposedly I love. My old lady here isn't over yet about her life.. she is fond of cooking, making her own chutneys and dhoklas at home, and her own special masala tea. She invites me over to her place whenever I am in the area next - to look at her paintings and teach her a little on using a laptop. Why a laptop, I ask? Then she proceeds to tell about her broker, who used to invest on her behalf, but ever since he left, she's been wanting to learn how to operate using a laptop, on her own.
I am hooked by now - on this frail, arthritis stricken but an amazingly strong and positive personality sitting in front of me.. I am sure, with her sheer optimism, she will learn behind a legacy which is worthy of praise.

When I walk back home, (yes water still being spilled, autos still not willing, life still pretty much the same), I think about this seemingly ordinary but highly inspiring conversation with the silvery haired lady in the train..She makes life big. She is exploring all the options and all her strengths to make the best use of the time that she has, age notwithstanding. In front of her, I am in no position to complain...
A chance meeting with a stranger, gives a week's worth of relaxation indeed!




Friday, December 16, 2011

New year coming.. again?


It is the jolly time of the year again. Tra la la la and all that. Jolly sure if you have something amazing to look forward to. But really, admit it, it's the same old dish served out with different side dressings year on year. The fun part seems to be long over, and it seems as if the path ahead could be anything - I can still hope for an amazing turnaround and see a sitcom like ending perfecto, or just accept this reality crap and start to "settle" down - but before the crazies of your mind take this settling to mean the perfect Indian matrimony ending, it does NOT in any way refer to that. I refer here to those fantasies and awesomeness that you imagined your adult life to be when you were a gawky insecure teenager, and which might not exactly be panning out in the exact same manner. Life's a bitch - you are blessed with this overactive imaginative mind who can't help doling out these amazing scenarios to you and unless you were blessed with some guardian angel's hand hovering over your head every second of your existence, the story most likely is that you are settling in with whatever twists and turns that has become your life. Nothing that you thought would exist forever is actually going in tandem with the phrase "ad infinitum" that you stamped them with. The sureties  are giving way to maybes, the dynamics of your relationships with different people keep changing with the sudden unexpected developments that have developed a habit of popping out at the least expected of moments. The constant race of life doesn't show any signs of giving up - started way back in school when life was still beautiful on the cusp, and now its become a never ending drama that has all the elements of adult life - not all of which are particularly enjoyable. Sure you have the confidence and the independence and the money, but mostly, its nothing more - the humor and jokes are wasted on blank walls or people around you who don't get you - because the people who did, are not around you; special moments that you waited or planned for have an unfortunate habit of not happening as in a dream, you have the money but you don't have the time for using it in the way you would have wanted, or probably you don't have as much money as you wanted. Maybe as a person you've evolved and reached that stage you always wanted, but maybe its a little late, as now, you don't really care how others perceive you - you're busy and overworked and alone and exhausted and you keep thinking wistfully of the past which seemed so bland at that time- but you don't get the security that maybe this present is also good, because you know, that stage was really good. Maybe it doesn't really get better. How can getting older really be better anyway? You are confided to an opinion set - because suddenly everyone's an adult (I say you're just plain scared of the future now) and you guard your opinions fiercely, and I come back to it, you are alone in a mad mad city (unless of course if you "settled" in to crazy matrimony). As this ranting goes on, a separate cerebral lobe has started to paint another picture "before the storm comes the silentest seas" - I hope so the silence of any development in this crazy work life is a just a brief crazy prelude to how life again would be topsy turvy, unpredictable, and happy again!
(yes its rattled even the most "stick to rules and routines" "no changes please" person like me)


Friday, August 19, 2011

Let my country.. nay.. let me awake


For the past few weeks, I had an alarm set, and irritatingly and incorrectly, quite early in the morning. Everyday it would go buzzing in the morning at 5 AM, when I really didn't need to wake up until 7... the alarm tone was also a sleep kill and mood killer, with an shrill piercing tone. I would wake up every morning, and set it off, sometimes setting it on snooze. Needless to say, this little activity every morning would rob me any sound sleep for the next 2 hours.

I don't know why I let this status-quo continue for the subsequent weeks. Did I expect someone else would eventually change the alarm time? And the tone? But wasn't it my sleep? shouldn't I be taking care of it instead of depending on some imaginary eventual self change?

I finally reset the alarm today, changed the tone to a more peaceful one, and it actually seemed as if a weight had been lifted off. So amazing it is to look forward to those extra 2 hours of sleep, in peace!

And now if i extrapolate this scene to a larger picture, isn't this what we are doing to our society and politics? we let the status quo of rotting of the system continue. We expect things to change; quite arrogantly we expect others to change themselves and kick start the whole process of reforming India. And yes, some people do actually try to abide by the rules, to be honest to the system. But a minority hardly ever leads a change.

Or so we think. With a kind of third revolution underway in India (the first two ones I would historically, and a little inaccurately probably, refer to the sepoy mutiny of 1857 and then the silent long struggle led by Mahatma Gandhi), Mr Anna Hazare has taken it upon himself, at an age of 74, to change the system for us. Maybe his struggle will help us, maybe it won't. But what will do to us? I read at a friend's post recently that the change has to begin at home.. don't pay bribes, don't bypass the system. Why did the VP of Morgan Stanley say he found it easier to play by the book in HK? isn't this a question we should really probe within ourselves?

Changes are always tough on self. To change from way of life we have become used to, to something that would require us to do more work and running about (at least in the initial phases of change), it is hardly a surprise that we have not achieved any significant progress in politics as well as our beliefs and thoughts. We seem to need a constant backing, some accolade when we do something great. The truth is, whenever we do anything correctly, it is what we're expected to do, and not some favour.

I'm hugely inspired by Anna Hazare. Not that I have the need to go to Ramlila Grounds and fast, but because here is a man, who wants to bring about a change not for himself, but for an entire nation! How often do we have people of this greatness and depth !

Critics of the methods he employs will always exist. (Critics are anyway a byproduct of any event that occurs, however mundane). If anything, that should give us more perseverance to adopt the rightousness that Mr Anna Hazare aims to achieve. 


Rabrindranath Tagore once wrote a beautiful poem "Let my country awake", I wish and pray, to let Indians awake!


             Where the mind is without fear and the head held high;
 Where knowledge is free;
Where the world has not been broken up into fragments by narrow domestic walls;
Where words come out from the depth of truth;
Where tireless striving stretches its arms towards perfection;
Where the clear stream of reason has not lost its way into the dreary desert sand of dead habit;
Where the mind is led forward by Thee into ever-widening thought and action;
Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake

~ Rabrindranath Tagore

PS - No matter how much our PM says about the undemocratic ways and means employed, for me "the end would define the means".

Sunday, April 17, 2011

And so.. I learn

I have a work profile which has routine calls by the call center, forwarding calls of clients who are just not able to fathom the complex product of home loans.. which neither can I, even though I am one year into this game.. anyway..

The most complex job you can ever have in your life, is understanding what the person in front of you (or on the phone) does not understand. Some will be rather forthcoming, and will let you know "ma'm I cant understand all this interest rate and stuff, what is this "amortization" ", while others will try to beat you with their own knowledge. But the knowledge of the layman, and the enterprise, will, and does, have huge gaps. So what here happens is a divide in the understanding. And then, resentment creeps in.
See, we're living in a hyper, topsy-turvy, super competitive world. No one wants to be taken for a ride in any service. So when resentment creeps in due to a lack in communication or understanding, no one takes it lying down - and then the shouting starts.

If you're new to this, you might take an emotional beating and think "why the hell is this happening?" - but as you grow to learn more how to deal with people, you try to figure out loopholes in the conversation and help him/her in the same...
But 10 such interactions in a day and you're a goner... by the time the day ends, you feel cranky, irritable and washed out. You think why are people so unresponsive, and uncooperative? Why is everyone suspicious of everything? Are we really becoming that farcical a society and community? And at the end of it all.. why does everyone throw their weight around, and shout? How can that make you feel better?
Then you're heading back to home, thoughts pounding in your head. Till the time you reach, your head is almost clear of all the garbage, and you've filtered out the negativities of the day. Or so you think..

After such a day some weeks back, I was heading home, when I was stopped by a rather ragged looking couple, carrying a weak girl - around 5 yrs in age - in their arms. The stopped me and asked "marathi aalya?" I shook my head in the negative. Then in broken hindi, the couple tried to explain how they had traveled from a town called Satara, in Maharashtra, in promise of a job by some agent. The agent disappeared after the token money - a chunk of their savings - and they had been peddling the rude roads of Mumbai since then.. their money had dwindled, so they requested for some petty cash so that they could buy something to eat for their girl. 
As an act of the good Samaritan, I almost reached into my pocket, to dole out some money, when suddenly, a cycnism filled my head... what if they are taking me for a ride? Now here's the reasoning my weary mind gives me.. 20-30 bucks is nothing for me and probably a lot for that couple, but not being able to filter out the negativities of the day, I am seeing everything with the same tinted glasses, with which we, as a service provider, are treated with the whole day..
All that internal battle of "why as a society we're so suspicious" rages storm again in my mind. Should I, or should I not, give them the money? A train of thought starts, suppose, suppose their whole story is a lie - where will that leave me? Short of 30 bucks perhaps, but more than that, I will definitely not be helping a needy person in the future.. 
And if suppose, their story indeed was true (and true bad luck for them) then I would feel really guilty for not having helped out. And what was the money to me anyway? 
I couldn't really work out what to do.. and the couple stood expectantly.. I could imagine them approaching various other people throughout the day, in the heat, and then getting an answer, which I could be arriving at, too. The depressing, monosyllabic answer, "No".
I decided to take the middle way - I didn't give them the money, but I did buy them the vada pav for all 3 of them.. and soon I realized, their story was true after all.. their immense gratitude made me feel ashamed for having doubted them.

The next day, I went to office, having forgotten the incident. As I was working, I got a call... gearing myself up for another heated discussion on the finances of a loan,interest rates, its working, I picked up the phone. It was my favourite call center executive, who (and I really admire that) is always ready with a smile in her voice, no matter how many calls, and hollering she receives. 
She says, "hey I just called to say Hi.." I reply, a bit surprised "Hi to you too!" She continues "wo aapse baat nai hui thi na 2-3 days se.. just wanted to say, you really help us out sometimes by taking the calls.. and you don't complain that the client is irritated, call center should handle it.. so we say thanks"
A simple random thanks just made my day! Probably I could do the same to some of the people I meet...
And I think, are we really that bad at handling each other? Nay! 
Probably, all we need, is a little more patience.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Veni Vidi Vici

Dear Team India,

Do you even realize what have you done?

You've made a sport more of a legend, you've given a fitting tribute to one of the best players in the history of the game, you've displayed great sportsmanship (I refer here to the toss),and you've raised the bar of the game so much so that, we will no longer think "pakistan ko hara dia na, bas!"

To millions and millions of Indians today, you provided 8 hours of nerve wrecking game, with a historical finish. Chasing a commanding total, under the lights, that too in Mumbai's sultry heat, is no mean feat. I can't isolate one single player who did not play his part, and that's why I salute you Team India.

You made people talk and plan with excitement about the impending World Cup Final. You must know, that with the advent of the world cup every 4 years, millions of frenzied cricket supporters round the country pray immensely for the Indian team to win. For as long as I can remember, there is no numerological reasoning that has not been applied, every World Cup, which had us convinced that this may be the year!!

The Journey has been long, but today there seem to be no regrets. From kids to old people, all will remember the young Indian Team who brought home the Cup which was long due since the early 80s!

Between that Kapil Dev Era, and The Sachin Tendulkar Era (as it will be known), there came many great players, who all made a willing contribution in the attempt to bring THE CUP home. But no win is easy till you have the right ingredients together.

It makes every Indian proud today to be a part of the winning side. First the successful conduct of the Commonwealth games (not disregarding the scams, which is a totally different issue) and now this win, I think this will be a huge boost towards the esteem and image of the whole of India.

To think that a sport win makes such a huge difference to our whole outlook towards everything in life, its still a big surprise why we don't push more towards a career in sports.

But that again is a debate which will keep taking more contours.. till then we will savour this amazing, unbelievable win, which is yet to sink in! It is like a placement mixed with graduation along with a farewell and a birthday party, all thrown in together, and there seems no end to which we can cheer, or clap or applause or  just be deliriously happy!!!

Cheers to the Indian Cricket Team, for having the conviction to win, and cheers to all other teams which put up an amazing fight!!! It makes our victory all the more sweeter.

Till the next world cup, boys, Party abhi baki hai!!!